To Love, To Marry & to oblige…

What does being in love mean to you?

It’s always hard to summarize, but let me give it a shot- expressing my affection against all the odds, it’s about being inspired, it’s about wanting to live longer & to spend time with that special someone, it’s about finding someone you can count on in good times & bad,to make someone laugh when they feel like crying, hold them when their spirit is falling apart…..(and lot more)

Having said all that, I always wondered how important it becomes when that special someone tells us something about ourselves and the degree of impact it has can almost shake any amount of belief we have in ourselves.

A few of my close pals got married a little before I did. Being to- be bride, I was curious to know everything about marriage. But my most sought out question(s) was to know what it felt to be married & how does life look after marriage. Following are the replies that I could not forget, could believe & choose not to believe!

“Everything changes after marriage. The attitude towards each other, definition of love, direction that you are heading towards in life etc… everything will have a complete new meaning. “

“To continue having the same zing in the relationship that you had before marriage, don’t forget the very first reason why you fell in love with each other for.”

“Accepting differences is the part of loving person; but often, these differences are the main reason why people fall apart.”

In recent past, there were a few instances when my better half & I ended up discussing some of my traits which got me an understanding of his perception (with hint of disappointment) about me.

Trust, confidence, responsibility & situation control; these were a few topics that we broadly discussed. What surprised me were not the traits, but difference that he noticed in me before and after marriage. Apparently they all existed & and are now perished.

Does one really change after marriage? Well I do understand priorities change but what about personality of the individual? Or should we blame it on wrong judgment?

I am still pondering over these things as I have begun to discover the journey of marriage.

But none the less, I believe that trust & respect are two things which cannot be inherited or bought, but are earned.

Like I said; being in love to me meant giving in unconditionally, I would not stop working towards earning what I think I deserve. But am I willing trade my self-respect for that? Aaaaaaaa………